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Many years ago, a few years after completing my own marriage, a colleague reached out to me to ask me when I was going to write the book on how to navigate divorce “gracefully.” She’d witnessed my completion, and while it was not a picnic and I definitely was not always graceful, my ex and I had done a decent job of moving through the process together. She herself was at the beginning of her completion with her spouse, and had several friends who were also in the midst of their own painful process. (As many people say, “divorce is contagious” — though it’s not, standing in our authenticity and power is). I was getting ready to start my next big book and did not have the time to do a big piece, so I told her I’d put some time into it and see what came out. I wrote this book sitting at a friend’s pool watching my kids play. It’s gritty, it’s real, it’s poorly edited, but I’m told it’s helpful. Up until now, it has only been available by secret handshake and referral; however, it feels important to bring it out into the open in case it supports others in their own endings. It is available now in PDF format. If we get enough demand, we’ll take it to print.
Special Note: I was a very different person when I wrote the first edition of this mini-book (2018) and I’ve learned a lot since then, so I’ve done two things to honor that. First, I’ve added an “epilogue” of sorts for what I’ve learned over the last eight years about what happens after completions, and what I wished I would have known so I could have done it better. And two, I’ve realized as re-reading this book, that this actually applies to any kind of “breakup” or “ending” (personal, professional, romantic, friendship, etc.), so I may actually rework this little book, or create a second version, of the IEP Survival Guide for Excellent Endings.
Many years ago, a few years after completing my own marriage, a colleague reached out to me to ask me when I was going to write the book on how to navigate divorce “gracefully.” She’d witnessed my completion, and while it was not a picnic and I definitely was not always graceful, my ex and I had done a decent job of moving through the process together. She herself was at the beginning of her completion with her spouse, and had several friends who were also in the midst of their own painful process. (As many people say, “divorce is contagious” — though it’s not, standing in our authenticity and power is). I was getting ready to start my next big book and did not have the time to do a big piece, so I told her I’d put some time into it and see what came out. I wrote this book sitting at a friend’s pool watching my kids play. It’s gritty, it’s real, it’s poorly edited, but I’m told it’s helpful. Up until now, it has only been available by secret handshake and referral; however, it feels important to bring it out into the open in case it supports others in their own endings. It is available now in PDF format. If we get enough demand, we’ll take it to print.
Special Note: I was a very different person when I wrote the first edition of this mini-book (2018) and I’ve learned a lot since then, so I’ve done two things to honor that. First, I’ve added an “epilogue” of sorts for what I’ve learned over the last eight years about what happens after completions, and what I wished I would have known so I could have done it better. And two, I’ve realized as re-reading this book, that this actually applies to any kind of “breakup” or “ending” (personal, professional, romantic, friendship, etc.), so I may actually rework this little book, or create a second version, of the IEP Survival Guide for Excellent Endings.